Greatest Lessons For A Mom: The First Year
My little baby turns ONE! Oh boy a year has gone by. Where on Earth does time go? If you’re a mom I know you get it.
Lessons For A Mom
When you become a mom, you learn a lot – about yourself, about kids, about unconditional love and about becoming a “superhero”…but seriously. For those that have been following for a while or know me directly, you’ll remember that Makius (Mack-eye-us) was born 8 weeks early. He was just ready and it happened one evening. BOOM – goodbye due date, hello baby! He was due December 1st and came October 5th. I literally jumped into motherhood in less than 10 hours.
As Makius turns 1 this weekend, it has really made me reflect this past year and the greatest lessons I’ve learned as a mom. Here are a few of my favourites. Let me know what else you would personally add in the comments below.
- Being a mom is the hardest job you’ll ever love. A lady told me this one day and it took me a minute to absorb what she was saying. She was so right. Being a mom IS the hardest job – everyday is different, every phase of a baby or child is uniquely different and the shift never ends. But, once you become a parent you wouldn’t trade it for the world. I literally cannot remember life before my son. He’s truly changed my life and my hubby’s!
- Never judge another mom. I remember the first time I had to nurse in public because I knew it was the only way I could calm Ki down. Basically… I went and hid in the corner of a park. Another time we were at Target, he had his first tantrum (on the floor and everything) and we spent a few minutes working it out. When you’re a mom there’s a first for everything. You definitely do begin to care less about what people think but you still glance up occasionally and can just feel a stare (even if it didn’t mean anything). Since I’ve been in “mommy shoes” (yes, my new shoes) I’ve begun to smile or give another mom words of encouragement in public because I. GET IT. Learn to spread love! Being a mom is challenging as it is!
- Your kids are always first and your food is always cold. You love your kids so much you will offer to get wet in the rain, give your sweater if it’s cold, fan them if it’s hot (even if it makes you hotter because you are the fan), share what was your food and get none (hoping you can grab a bite of something in the fridge at some point) – but you learn a whole new selfless type of love. You want your child to have the best, live the best, feel the best. You learn to be selfless.
- You don’t differentiate between AM and PM. I’m thankful because we sleep trained Makius at 16 weeks adjusted age. I remember the nights when there was an 11pm wake up and 3 am wake up … oh and our day would begin by 6. There are nights where I’d check my clock mostly to make sure we are at least waking every 3-4 hours and no less and think “okay it’s 3 am – that’s great.” Pre-baby I would have said, “OMG it’s 3 am! Why am I up? Ugh!” You begin to smush AM and PM together as one – it’s just another part in the day.
- There is a first for everything. This one refers to the first that your child experiences. Probably one of the most beautiful things to witness is to see their expressions and reactions to the little things. Soak it in. My errands have slowed down immensely so Ki can experience what we are doing, why we are doing it and how to have conversation with the people we encounter. As soon as he was able to walk pretty steady (supported, though), he would push the cart at the store or hold my hand for stability. He got to experience every interaction since 10 months! Reminding yourself that what a regular and boring errand is for us, is something totally new and exciting for them.
If you’re a new mom, just remember that nothing lasts forever. These moments are truly special. The bonding, the different phases and milestones, the amount of learning and growing they do even on a month-by-month basis is truly astounding. These are the greatest lessons for a mom.